Dear Dating Doctor:
Do you have any advice for women on how they can put romance back into their relationships with men? I am sure that I am not the only woman who could use a few quality suggestions.
Desperately Seeking Romance
Dear Desperately Seeking:
As a husband and columnist, I am pleased to answer your question as my wife may read my reply and bestow some of my own suggestions upon me. What a great concept.
It is rare to receive a note such as yours. Letters normally cross my desk from women who wish the men in their lives were more responsive to their needs, not vice versa. Thus, I salute your willingness to work at improving your relationship.
Assuming that he will be open-minded, here are several ideas to consider:
"Kidnap" him for a weekend escape to a quaint bed and breakfast. Secretively pack, and make all of the arrangements, including financial.
When he is performing a thoughtful gesture on your behalf, don't complain about the quality of his actions. Simply express your appreciation (then fix it later!).
Serve him breakfast in bed (without causing food poisoning).
Give him a massage or arrange for him to visit to a professional masseuse.
Throw him a surprise party for no particular reason. Invite people he enjoys.
Take him out for a romantic dinner. Bring two gifts. One for him. One he (indirectly) bought for you! He'll be pleased he didn't mess yours up this time!
There is a law of nature that plucks a man's change from his pocket without his knowledge. Over time, collect these "donations," wrap them, roll them, and present the cash to him for a purchase that he didn't believe he had the finances to make.
Place hidden notes (or jokes) in his lunch, briefcase, grooming area, underwear or sock drawer which express how much you love him.
Recreate your first date ever. Cover as many of the intricate details as possible.
Arrange for him to take a private lesson in his favorite sport or hobby.
Buy him a sleeve of exploding golf balls. You might not be present at the precise moment they're enjoyed, but I guarantee he'll express his thanks later.
Suggest a role reversal day. You perform all of his chores and vice versa. I'm not sure that he'll find this romantic, but he will never again complain about his responsibilities.
Finally, let him complete a sentence. He'll appreciate the change of pace.