Since I am receiving a multitude of email on this subject every single day, I felt it was time to set the record straight once and for all. Read nice guys...read.
Why do "nice guys" fail so often with women? You divulge too much information too quickly. You appear too needy and too desperate. You try to take care of a woman's every want, need and desire, before she even knows what they are herself. You leave no mystery. You leave no challenge for women to triumph over. You are fearful that once you leave a woman's presence, you also leave her mind. What you don't realize is that if you have captured a woman's imagination, attention or interest in some way, it is the moment that you leave her presence, she can't get you out of her mind.
When you smother a woman, by calling too much, emailing too often, texting too often, being around all the time, you send a very strong message that you have low self-esteem and have little confidence that she will want you just for you or just to be with you. If a woman can sense that you have a successful, independent, exciting and interesting life WITHOUT HER, she may want a life or relationship WITH YOU. If she can sense that she is your entire focus and "reason for being" she may never want one with you. Why? She doesn't have to....as you aren't going anywhere. She can do whatever she wants, date whomever she wants, for as long as she wants, and come back to you weeks, months or years later and be confident that you will STILL be waiting for her. Who wants a guy like that? Not a strong, confident, independent woman who loves a good challenge.
If a woman loses her feeling of passion for you, rarely will she pursue you. Nice guys cause this loss of passion by being too available, too often, in too many ways. Back off, show confidence in yourself and live a life independent of her. Remember, everyone wants what they cannot have. It is okay to let a woman know that you have an interest in her, but then you must have the confidence and courage to back WAY OFF and give her a chance to MISS YOU.
Good luck nice guys, you're going to need it!