Let chivalry occur naturally
Do not "rush" ahead of your date to reach a door first or make a big deal out of paying a check or opening her car door. Simply be a gentleman and do the right thing, at the right time for the right reason.
Focus on her
Many men allow themselves to be too easily distracted. Since we get aroused and are driven visually, we tend to let our eyes wander and believe me, she will notice. Consider her a magician...when she enters the room everyone else should immediately disappear.
Listen to her COMPLETELY before you respond
Men live by the principle of "thorough brevity." We use as few words as possible to convey our emotions or intentions. We often hone in and fixate on one word or phrase, know that is what we are going to respond to, and thus stop listening. Be an active listener and you'll have an appreciative partner.
Never leave the house with "ulterior motives"
It was said best in the movie, "There's Something About Mary"...never leave the house with a "loaded gun!" If your entire mission for that date is to satisfy your own physical urges and desires, you will not be at your best and it will be transparently apparent to your date. Whatever you do to get sex off your mind before a date, do it twice!
Leave your cell phone home (or turned off in the car!)
First, you're not that important! You'll get the call eventually. Second, your date needs to sense that nothing is more important to you, at least during the duration of that date, than her. Answering your phone, checking messages or text messaging someone else will give her the "uns." She will feel uncomfortable, unattractive, and unappreciated.
Make sure that PDA is Okay
Some men consider public displays of affection to be a real turn on, while others find the experience to be uncomfortable at best. It won't take long to gauge which side of the equation he falls on. Plus, the subtle and gentle caress of a finger while holding hands (that no one notices) can create as much of a stir as a passionate kiss in the middle of a crowded room.
Look great for him, but not necessarily for half of North America
There is a fine line between looking fabulously sexy and overly provocative. Men become aroused visually and appreciate attractiveness in their date, until they sense that she has placed herself on display for the entire world to see, meet and greet. Men don't want to feel as if they have paid for and provided you with a runway for your coming out party.
Offer to pay, but then give away
Men have more respect for a woman who offers to share the costs of a date than one who assumes that she has a free pass for the day. It shows respect for him, the dating process, for money and allows him to feel good about treating you well. Just the gesture of offering sends a strong message to him that you appreciate the costs associated with spending time together exist.
Give him a sign, early on down the line
If you are having fun, let him know in a subtle way. If you are enjoying his company, make it somewhat apparent through your words and actions. Sometimes men spend the entire date trying to decipher whether or not it is going well or is a complete and utter failure. No matter how under control he may appear on the outside, his inside is operating as doppler radar for dating.
Help him avoid the "showdown"
The showdown is the last five minutes of a date. What is going through a guy's mind? Should I kiss her? If I do, what type of kiss is appropriate? I don't want to come on too strong, nor appear disinterested or prudish. If I don't try, will she think that I find her repulsive? Help avoid this by offering your cheek early on in the date and allow for a harmless expression of affection to occur. Then, maybe later, sparks will fly or it will at least easier to say goodbye.
Keep the date brief
The light that burns brightest, burns shortest. Plan for no more than two hours together. Then, if sparks are flying and chemistry is clicking, you can always add more time which ultimately bodes well for the future.